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Tuesday, May 09, 2006

Sex survey findings

There can never be enough discussion about sex. Here are some findings from a new study with a record number of participants (close to 78k).

posted by z @ 4:48 PM  

9 Comments:

  • At 11:31 AM, Blogger Rama said…

    Evidence of what I've always had an inkling: men stray due to purely physical needs, not because they are no longer emotionally attached to current partner... women stray for deeper reasons. Honestly, I think it's a lot easier to forgive someone's insatiable sex drive. So, does that mean it's okay to forgive the man, but not the woman? Is this why so many more men admit to it (and why women keep it secret), because it's easier to shrug off and not really "that big of a deal"?

    Huh...

     

  • At 10:00 PM, Blogger monti said…

    I thought it was interesting that in most of the statistics men were less satisfied/had more complaints about their sex life than women. the cultural cliche is that women are the one's that have to put up with mediocre/unsatisfying sex because we're 'harder to please.' Apparently this isn't the case--I wonder if the myth has become so strong that many women figure they just have to 'put out' and the man will be happy...I wonder if that is leading to any kind of rise in infidelity or break-ups?

     

  • At 8:17 AM, Blogger Rama said…

    interesting theory... I wonder if there's a way to test that?

     

  • At 12:15 AM, Blogger z said…

    rama - would you change your mind if it was phrased that men stray due to physical drives and women due to emotional drives? if it's a drive what's the difference?

    no, when monogamy is established straying is bad from either side. if one member or both can't handle monogamy talk about it and establish something that works.

    see - this is just one of my MANY problems with religion. there is such a strong push for this "one man, one woman" thing. why? why not explore alternatives such as polyamory or clans.

    i really liked Heinlein's idea (presented in his novel "The Moon is a Harsh Mistress") of a libertarian society and a clan family unit. They exist as a collective. All members must agree to admit a new member into the family. Why not? Why not encourage people to explore alternatives?

     

  • At 12:17 AM, Blogger z said…

    *lol* i think you think about it too much monti. sure... it's a possibility that happens with some couples. in the end a couple that doesn't talk about these things is always going to have problems.

    people constantly change and thus couples do as well. a couple is not a static institution. as their relationship morphs they need to discuss their needs and how best to feed their togetherness.

     

  • At 12:21 AM, Blogger z said…

    in the end i think we should focus our education efforts on the importance of seld-realization (know thyself) and dialogue. all these other things are minor and a consequence of those prior things.

    if a woman did think that she was happy and the guy was happy and the guy wasn't happy and that lead to problems and a break-up (or vice-versa) - a study to conclude this wouldn't help.

    i think we should always assume that there isn't enough dialogue (cause there isn't) and educate and encourage open and honest dialogue as the best way to maintain a happy and productive relationship.

    thoughts? opinions? rebuttals?

     

  • At 9:03 AM, Blogger Rama said…

    Maybe what you can/cannot forgive is based on what you put more value on in the relationship: emotional connection or physical monogamy.

     

  • At 2:27 PM, Blogger z said…

    that's a good point. the emotional connection to me would be the most important. i would think physical monogamy would stem from it.

     

  • At 4:09 PM, Blogger monti said…

    lol I'm not saying that I would use my own relationships as study units, or that I would use msn (or any other institution's) survey results to make any sort of desicion in a relationship. That would be a disaster! Every partnership is as unique as the people in it (no matter how many), and should be approached as completely new territory. No amount of statistics can help a single relationship. I just can't help but be curious about cultural trends, whether I'm a part of them or not.

     

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